In my notes about biblical counseling in my last class, the instructor talks about the question of how a Christian can counsel unbelievers. He said that you really can’t counsel unbelievers, because they have a different world view, and they worship the world, and what mankind tells them.
I do know that talking about our problems with a kind, good listener can help the soul, and it really can help us get through a day where we’ve become stressed by life. However, the root cause of a anyone’s issues is truly found in the soul. They are saved, or they are not saved. That makes the difference in counseling by a biblical counselor.
If you go to a spiritual counselor whose soul is not with the “living” souls saved by Christ, you won’t understand a biblical counselor who talks about sin and how it may be a root cause of their troubles. God can only work so much through the life of a sinner, who is unrepentant, and who is not seeking Christ. The instructor said, “The mind set on the flesh is dead”.
Instead of counseling unbelievers, Christian counselors provide more evangelizing. Unbelievers may take it or leave it, but it may have planted a seed they find useful later on down the road. It is offered, Christ as the solution to their problems. God changes the heart to cause the inner, personal transformation.
Our souls must be washed, and we must leave lives of sin once we have become saved. Our viewpoint about what we should do in our problems must become Christ-centered. An unsaved person will have the opportunity to seek Christ’s counsel in the bible, through prayer, and through the wise counseling of other believers. They will want to find answers in worldly ways yet not find our Blessed Hope, with the hope for eternity that gives us such joy.
They might find temporary helps but the nagging knowing that something keeps going wrong in their lives will always dog them, it seems. In my life it did.
Know the bible well enough to counsel others and let God do the rest. He may operate in someone’s life to soften their heart – and then they may come to Christ – but what good does it do if he puts a hand out to ask someone if they will accept his Lordship, and they refuse? They miss the understanding that to get right with the Lord Jesus Christ means to get right in their very souls.
Some say we have been chosen since the beginning of time, that God knew who would be given to Christ as being saved. As we don’t have the capacity to understand the ways of God I find that very hard to understand – but I’m blessed that I am one. I truly believe.