Is Christian Counseling A Valid Form Of Counseling?

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Please may you excuse my unedited thoughts as I typed them out on this blog post, which I may want to edit later.

I found a blog post that caught my eye, entitled, “Beware of Christian Counselors” by an Ohio man named Bruce Gerencser.

It caught my eye because of the title which led me to believe that Christian counselors may not reflect values, principles and teachings of the bible.  As we know, many churches have fallen away from the faith and are teaching false doctrines ranging from the New Apostolic Church, to gay teaching from the “Queen James Bible”, or the Unity Church, Church of Scientology and others.  Who knows what mixture of humanistic, new-age and other forms of pagan religions are out there these days?

So I read the blog post thinking I had found an ex-counselor like myself who has been trained and working toward licensure, I was surprised to learn that he had been a pastor in a few churches and had found in his life’s journey that he did not believe in God any more; he had become atheist.  He shared his gripes about pastoral counseling and the negative experiences he had learned about it’s being used.  His story had an unexpected twist.  I fully did not expect this as I began reading.

He brings up a quote from Wikipedia’s definition of Nouthetic counseling;

“The aim of Nouthetic Counseling is to effect change in the counselee by encouraging greater conformity to the principles of Scripture.”

He brings up an example of a woman who receives counseling from a pastor who does not share her “egalitarian beliefs” and how her pastor’s goal is not her help her but to “get her to conform to certain theological beliefs”.

I don’t understand what’s bad about learning correct eschatology.  But, when it comes to pastoral counseling where I’m told one is to “be the love of Jesus in the room”, it is a hard concept to grasp.  After all, Jesus did teach people the wrong ways of their lives, he gave his life for all of us and threw the money-changers out of the temple.  But, he was not a “counselor” per se.  His whole reason for being was to teach that we have all sinned and needed to be forgiven, and He was the Way, the Truth, and the Life to do that.  His love was so great that he died for all so that we may be forgiven and live in heaven one day after the body died.

There are issues here about how counseling is used in the world today.  Counseling has become somewhat blurred the way the bible has; Christian counseling does not exist, other than to explain the gospel and hope that a person will seek God out.  God gives life and is the Creator and knows best what mankind needs; we do not.  Yet the bible is used as a form of counseling “support” in that certain bible verses get used to “heal” a person, but that is not what the bible is about at all.  Jesus healed but did so as a way to prove that he was truly God in the flesh, and referred to himself as being “God’s Son” which meant to the Jews that he was God and of God that they knew about in the Pentateuch.

God’s Holy Spirit comes from the belief that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior, understanding who he was when he was on earth and who he is today.  It is a gift from the Lord Jesus, and is given to those who truly believe in Him as Savior and Lord, none other and who has the gift of telling a person in so many ways that they must do this or that, I believe, as we are drawn to do the right thing in a matter.  This blog cannot begin to explain how God moves us to be good in our words and deeds, nor how we are given strength to get through our toils on earth, and on and on…

I am telling you only a very elementary description of God’s Holy Word and how he saved us from our sin if we want to know and be near to Him.

It seems that Pastoral counseling can give support to marriages and single people alike but the goal is to bring people to a closer relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ, ultimately.  God is the great Counselor among other gracious things, in his loving kindness and as our loving Father and Holy Spirit that guides us.  They are One.

Counseling is best done by someone who is wizened to the fact that everyday counseling done by counselors out in the field are not trained in the works of the Lord.  They do not know God and so have a limited understanding of how to heal someone.

Now some of you are snickering; mankind cannot “heal” people – it is Our Creator who is the one who heals people, because he created us, and mankind can only prescribe helpful and supportive treatments.  But the body’s magic in it’s healing is not inspired by mankind; it is the Creator who put the healing properties in humankind’s bodies and He alone can take our health away and/or make us heal right.  If He doesn’t, He may be taking the side of the person who wishes to go without God in his life, or he may have another reason, that we don’t know about to make a person not heal.  

In his Word he rewards us with healing, prosperity or punishes us by letting us go farther from Him in people’s sin, because personal choice is afforded to all humankind.

What this blogger misses is that the Bible is not about Social Justice, nor is it about healing done by mankind, but is about how Jesus told mankind about their sins, and that he would take their sins upon himself and die on the cross for us so that we can be forgiven for being the sinners that every one of us is.

He paid the price for all of our sins and gave us Himself, by his Grace and our faith in Him alone, to forgive us and cleanse us from sin, so that we may live on for eternal life in His presence, instead of being separated from His love for us, and for eternity.

Counseling, in today’s world is based upon an atheistic view and that is not compatible with Christian faith.  Every topic that a person comes in to see a counselor for is most probably going to be the result of a person’s sinful natures since we are all born into sin.  No one understands sin really being that they only label homosexuality or abortion as sins.  They don’t understand all the hatefulness in a person’s heart that is at the base of all sin.  Hatefulness is rebelliousness against God’s love and direction.  Understand Eve’s fall in the book of Genesis and you’ll see more about her rebellion against God’s instruction.  The instruction He gave out of love of his children.

My point about counseling today is that with all one is taught in counseling school, on the one hand, being there to listen to someone’s pain with empathy, offering support and maybe resources is all well and good, but a kind person can do that.  Learning to sit for long hours providing your personal attention, care and learning some of the tools of counseling while being paid to do so may also be found helpful to some – or many people.  

What is counseling meant to do?  Ultimately, as a counselor you walk with a counselee (or client) to help them solve an issue: a behavioral problem in themselves or a family member, having suicidal tenancies, self-harm, addiction, emotional problems, or whatever.  You come up with a treatment plan, or a “care plan”, and then you assign tasks or homework, you listen and provide helpful feedback or ask gentle probing questions so that a client looks at the logic of what they are saying.  There are millions of such tools in a counselor’s toolbox if they have the right experience, and are intelligent and seasoned, caring “therapists”.  

But what happens with the person the next time they run into an issue that becomes overwhelming or they need someone to “bounce things off of”?  These are things which they learn to go to a human for advice and therapy.  How much does it help?  Maybe it brings some temporary relief but who is the Creator of all mankind?  Why would our Creator be the one left out of a counseling session?

More can be said here but I’ll add another issue which brought me to a crossroads about quitting being a counselor:  clients who have issues which I cannot support them in that go against my Christian faith.  How would I be able to help them?  Clients seeking abortions, or are “transitioning” to the opposite sex, or problems in their same-sex marriage or becoming a same-sex attracted person, would be some examples of those clients which I could not help walk their path.  I could not condone those things.

So, getting back to the blog post that intrigued me in the beginning.

He felt counseling is done by mankind, as if mankind can solve all the problems brought to them but with no Jesus Christ to invite into their lives.

Again, the bible is not a manual for how to counsel people.  It shows us who God is, what Jesus did on the cross for us and why we need Him.  It does not tell us we are to solve problems of others on our own.  It is a book for the believers to know and trust God, the One True God and it’s not about social justice warriors, social issues of the day nor what we ought to do with our children who want to change their genders. 

It definitely is not about how God is a lesbian, gay man or about homosexuality as being a way to marriage, definitely not!  People have turned the bible into all kinds of things because of the sin in everyone’s life and in the world from the beginning of mankind in the Garden, but because people don’t know the bible, they can get away with saying all kinds of things that are made up versions and published versions by mankind.  The same mankind who want to become counselors teaching empty bible verses and applying them on today’s problems like a fortune cookie quote would.  That’s about the extent of it.

In the blog article I read I may have been a bit misled by the title but now I’m afraid I’m a bit mad at how the author bashed the Word of God, as if knowing God and reading the bible could not help someone – yet it can.  He may not have been a true believer in the first place and so has turned to the worldly ways of mankind to help him get through some of his problems.  But God’s blueprint for learning his ways and who he is is found in the bible as we read more and learn more through the Holy Spirit that guides us.  If you don’t know the bible and don’t truly believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, how can you tell us what is possible through the knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ who has given so much to us all and promises eternal life with Him?  Sure we will be tested through life, but his strength delivers us in a manner that strengthens our knowledge of Christ, if you believed.

Otherwise, a kind, worldly unbeliever may be the band-aid to help you through tough times.  He may be used by the Holy Spirit to help someone, as it is God’s desire that all men are saved, but some will not be because they fail to seek and truly want to know God.

Pastoral counseling is really a person that knows God, can kindly advise and pray for someone and teach them in ways to seek Christ in their trials.  That is the best way to start helping someone, by encouraging their faith in Christ Jesus.   Becoming a state-licensed therapist and then calling yourself a “Christian counselor” does not make sense because you are still using the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders, or “DSM” which was created by atheist/agnostic unbelievers in Christ Jesus who were against God and so developed their criteria of what mental illness is.  Putting a state license first using diagnostic criterion by unbelieving psychiatrists who do not know God should not be the criteria to treat or help a person with mental health issues.

The mind is the workings of the person’s very soul, being and identity.

We are embodied spirits and inspirited bodies, (or, if you will, embodied minds and minded bodies). (Anonymous, 2003)

Psychiatry doesn’t have the ability to treat the mind of a person since they can’t locate the specific pieces of a mind that may need treatment.  Doctors are not able to pinpoint the breath of life that God gave us, firstly in Adam, then in Eve.  They give overall generalities of behaviors or bizarre ideas of people and label these as “symptoms” of a diseased mind or one that is “sick” in some way in books like the DSM or other medical texts.

Here we get into their ideas of causation and medical treatments including counseling which do address those symptoms but do not exactly “heal” a person.  A person’s soul and human behavior are seen as the person’s nature which is viewed differently in the Christian life vs. secular life.  Secularists view the person’s soul in as many personal views of each person’s such as something that will be reincarnated as another animal or life, or is an unexplained part of a person’s life that is inside of their physical body.  It is not attributed to being the part of a person that goes to the arms of the Lord when the person’s body dies, which is what true Christians believe.

Christians have a definite belief about a person’s soul and a person’s very soul is intimately tied to their mental faculties, feelings, ideas and capabilities.  Whether or not they sin has to do with their being a believer or not; a believer will be led away from sin.  While Christians walk the earth they are cleansed mentally and in their hearts by the Holy Spirit.  This does not happen in the secular world.  God is a Holy God and we are being made ready for when we die and reach heaven through the Lord Jesus Christ.

So the mind and heart of a person may be wrongfully led and counseling can endorse rebellion against the Creator who made all life.  If you are seeking help my advice would be seek God first and find healing and peace and rest in His love for you, since that is the way in which God created humans in his Garden of Eden.  Adam and Eve walked as friends of God’s.  

We are not higher in knowledge than our Creator.  He has the way and is the light to follow in our trials here on earth.

There is so much more to be written about secular counseling and Christian counseling.  These are only my musings of today although I have had many thoughts about my life as a former counselor and what led me to become one before I became a believer.  It makes one wonder…

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references:

https://www.masters.edu/news/biblical-counseling-v-pyschology.html

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3115284/

Pre-Christian Ideas About Energy-Based Technologies Harming People’s Bodies

sound wavesMany years ago before I became a Christian, I joined a movement online with people who believed they were being victimized by electromagnetic weapons.  These weapons were directed energy weapons of all kinds that affected the human body in many ways.

People were complaining of “hearing voices”, being stalked, having their bodies controlled by energy waves and advanced technologies, and a huge group of people began sharing their stories online. Continue reading

Counseling Psychology Falls Short In Addressing Issues Relating To Frequency Weapons: TI’s Suffer Needlessly And Are Given Thoughtless And Meager Help

sound-495859__340While I attending counseling psychology school and then working on a Ph.D. in psychology, I never heard of the weapons I have offered as a few examples below.  These only scratch the surface of weapons technology that I have studied in year’s past.  They are old and outdated even.  But all counselors should know about these since there are more people who have reported health deterioration, and having psychiatric issues, that they attribute to “hearing voices”, or “being targeted” by “perps” that use some of these frequency waves to harm them. Continue reading

Quick Notes On Christian Counseling

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     As I try to keep up with my bible course in counseling, I will attempt to share some of the points that I heard when I listened to a portion of the lesson tonight, which take a turn into my own concepts of who God is in the counseling relationship. I share here some of the thoughts I have, because I’ve had the chance to become educated in secular psychology, and formerly worked as a therapist.      Continue reading

Sick Souls Healed By Christ Only

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I am thankful that God pulled me out of the field of psychology.

After many bad experiences in the field; people who were unsaved, unbelievers who had their own ideas about how we could help people, but often were mean-spirited toward their clients.  I also had problems with them as a coworker, when they were demeaning, prideful, and wanting to harm my ability to practice in my field.  I guess it was a type of spiritual war with satan using people to harm my life.

Not being a true believer but having dabbled in Christianity, I suppose I was marked by “the enemy”, since I expressed an interest in Christianity on and off during my adult life.  I only guess at this, but don’t really know.

Listening to my course recording, I took more notes about Christian counseling.  The instructor, Dr. Jim Newheiser, seems very sober-minded and accurate in his dealing with the issues of why we don’t want to go into secular counseling, but would want to study the bible instead.

The bible is sufficient to train up our children, and teach us as adults, how we are to conduct ourselves in our lives.  I strongly suggest all who come here to this blog to know the value of God’s Word in being our ultimate guide in our lives.  We have our best counsel in the Lord Jesus Christ and not mankind, as it says in the bible.

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.  But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. – Psalm 1:1

The value in my education and experience in the field of psychology comes in sharing with others that counseling should be biblical counseling, and how the field of psychology of man is not compatible with the biblical world view.  

Some may find it helpful to speak to secular counselors because they can share with someone that is supportive and should refrain from being judgmental or invalidating the reality of what the person says.  Many people are not trained to give time to the person, but interrupt to talk about themselves or give advice where it is not wanted.  They do not have an ability to allow the person who is talking to have space to hear themselves, and process for themselves.  It is an art form, in my opinion.  You know when to interrupt, question something they’ve said to learn more about their view, and then allow them to continue, sharing the journey of self-growth.

But that is not what the Lord calls for; it is belief in Jesus who gives us sound minds and can heal us from within.  We are living souls who need soul-health.

A standard of healing based on man’s understanding of man is not sufficient to heal.  A dying soul needs Jesus to heal them, to redeem them, to mold them into the image of himself.

Our training as counselors may observe man’s behaviors and know the language that the secular counselors speak and teach, but the short-fall is that they don’t have a way to address the soul-sickness of mankind that is not saved.  There is no middle-ground, no compromising the world-view of the Christian. 

Psychology relates to those who’ve rejected Christ and was built around an atheist and secular world-view.  We cannot expect that world view to be of help to a dying, sick, soul.  Only Christ can do that.

Mental Health Treatment That Excludes Jesus Christ

trees1Psychology is not a pure “science” as we know it.  It is based upon man’s perceptions of what is normal behaviors and feelings, upon their social norms and morals, and what is known about science at the time they are seeking treatments, including medications, for their clients.

The field of psychology cannot explain what goes on in a human brain that leads to a person’s behaviors.  It has been explained in a master’s degree level psychology course that “psychology is a type of science, but is also an art”, because mental illness and brain activity which may cause mental illnesses and behaviors are not truly understood. 

Medications are only testing grounds for the doctors who prescribe them.  They may work for a short time to help a person feel better but may cause them to act out violently or feel suicidal, or may not work at all in helping a person feel well.  Doctors frequently change medications and their doses that only serve to mask symptoms at best.  It is thought that some people may have to remain on psychotropic medications for the rest of their lives in order to function, but that they will probably not be cured.  People are left waiting for the next new drug in hopes of being made well.

Labels are used in mental health treatment which are often given a client in therapy based on their feelings.  If enough feeling-related symptoms are cited by a client they become diagnosed according to the criteria cited in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), which is the “bible” of mental health practitioners and doctors.

In the courts, unacceptable behaviors get explained away by a description of some earlier life’s experience, such as being mistreated in some way as a child which often times are offered as justifications for why a person did some criminal behavior, in order to sway a judge to hand down lessor sentences.

Behaviors can be explained away by how a person “feels” at the time.  Anger, depression, sadness, can be described as the basis for why a person behaves badly.  Seeking medication can seem to be the “cure” for feelings being expressed, presumably to inhibit further misbehaviors.

These man-man treatments leave out God – Our Lord Jesus Christ – from all equations in treating mental health.  Unless you go to a Christian therapist or doctor you may not find any words about Jesus and the bible included in your treatment in mental health therapy.  Even then, most mental health practitioners are licensed under state laws.  You must pass the exams of the state licensing behavioral boards of science in order to practice, or be working on a license, or have a licensed supervisor who holds authority over what you are able to do in the field.

As we know, state licensed mental health clinicians of any kind do not have to have any experience in knowing Jesus; they do not study the bible to learn anything about Christ, or how he teaches us to obey God according to Scripture.

As I write this post which seems ragged around the edges because I’m sitting in the public library, it is hard to imagine how anyone can be a healer in mental health and offer treatment without any guidance from God; Our Lord Jesus Christ.

Paths To Truth: Not Gaining A License In Mental Health

treespath2As I’m learning my new role in my new job, I can see how I am excited by the fact that there are opportunities for me to go back and get my license here in the state of Washington.  Not being a Washington native I completed my schooling in California and was never successful in becoming licensed, nor completing my PhD.  I had too many life’s issues interrupt my life; becoming a battered wife, losing custody of my daughter, losing a home, a car, and suffering persecution from mental health “experts” falsely making claims about me and my mental health, this after complaining about a social worker who became my stalker at work.

These are a lot of issues I faced over two or three decades ago that are long, drawn-out and unjust occurrences I suffered through, being an atheist and possibly an agnostic toward the end of those years.  Many life’s problems caused me to stretch in areas and ways I would not have normally had to.  I am literally grateful I had to go through those challenges if it means that I am a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ today.  He has a way, I believe, of washing away the past tears and making things new – specifically my life and what I believe in now.

I wanted to write today about how I know it isn’t in the cards for me to become a licensed therapist.  I try over and over to make becoming licensed acceptable mentally as I watch the successful careers of peers at work, and read online how mental health clinicians are making headway in changes in the social justice movement as writers or commentators but I know in my heart that the reason I keep getting faced with this is to become more clear about why I shouldn’t go that route.

We all have paths to walk; Christians will sometimes know if the path they are on is the one they should be taking.  I feel it is of vital importance that I understand the reasons why I cannot become a licensed therapist.  It is a practice that is becoming more watered down by the day in my opinion.  Too many things have become acceptable, politicized and follow social norms as time moves on and I cannot let myself travel down that path.

To become a mental health therapist one has to support the path that the client is wanting to go.  There are times when, if the client may endanger themselves or others that the therapist has a mandate to report and try to help change the direction their client is moving on.  But for the most part, unless there is something illegal that the client is pursuing or unethical, therapists generally are supposed to help the person by walking along side of them to help them find a way out of their pain or barrier or show them different perspectives and possible answers to their dilemnas, for example.  Those would be common and general reasons therapists are sought for their help.

In the world today where PC is so rampant, a therapist cannot, and is not expected to, vocalize their true thoughts about someone’s transitioning as a transexual, for example.  Another example that creates issues for me is a child who is “gender fluid” because their parents think that bringing their child ideas about how it’s okay to be any gender they want would be a good idea.  Not only the social norms have changed and been changing over time but how to handle emotions; ie. joining a protest group that is known to destroy property, or making threatening phone calls to dispell one’s anger or other issues that cause some to behave in socially undesirable ways, which may make peers proud of them, and seeing this activity as “standing up for one’s rights” in a perverse way, are the complications I cannot approve of.  This would be a crisis of conscience for me, not being able to coach a person in the proper direction but having to gently address the issues with a client for fear of their complaining about me and possibly losing my job for not being “supportive” of a client and their feelings.

Not only that but when you are in a position to help heal a person mentally and you can’t mention the Lord Jesus or our Father in heaven, prayer and discussing sin in a person’s life along with demonic activity, I am cut off from my true beliefs about what and who really has the power to help a person and strengthen them, as well as heal, comfort or change a person so that they are walking with the Spirit of God residing in them.

Next time I become fascinated with the idea that there are people I work with who could potentially supervise my hours in order to gain a license to do therapy in the state of Washington I need to take a breath and remember who gave me the way to walk and the truth to know the difference between not being able to talk about the truth and what is money-seeking only.

Christians View Of Healthcare: Are We Sick From Our Past Sin? Christ’s Teaching Provides Answers That Secular Doctors Deny

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“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God?….” 1 Corinthians 6:19

People suffering from mental illness meet many challenges in getting help for their issues.  Concordia (2016) reports that “approximately one in five American adults experience mental illness each year.”  That’s 18% of the population, with children ages 8-15 being severely mentally ill at some point during their young lives making up 13% of the population.  That’s a lot of Americans suffering from mental illness, and serious mental distress among the American population is increasing, according to a blog called “Health”. (2017).

So how is it that so many people are left with little to no resources to help them in their fight against their mental illnesses?  The “Health” blog reports that people have not had easy access to mental health treatment options because the healthcare industry is complex, and the number of healthcare providers has not kept up with the need, yet there are conflicting reports that have mental health treatment options easier to access due to Obamacare.  Which view is correct and accurately describes the problem in our country’s secularistic domination of our health treatment programs?

“You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:20

What can Christians do to escape the stranglehold of pharmaceutical companies that treat for symptom-management but don’t quite heal a person from their mental or physical illnesses?

Don’t be impressed with your all wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn your back on evil. Then you’ll gain renewed health and vitality. – Proverbs 3:7-8 

American health care has forced citizen’s into paying into the federal government, and at a hefty price, to fulfill the laws surrounding the requirement of having medical health coverage.  No longer are our treatments for mental or physical health a choice made by the people, but this is government-run.  Healthcare insurance companies and treatments for mental illness are not our choice, but are legally mandated by insurance companies that make us pay for federal government-run health care at hefty prices.  Otherwise we risk paying a fine at the end of the year if caught without healthcare insurance.

If you believe like I do that mental health treatment is barbaric, and non-caring about the person’s well-being, you may cringe at the thought of having someone sent to a health care treatment provider who prescribes pills for all the maladies that a person has.  No longer is there compassion, or real caring for such persons.  If there were, facilities would allow Jesus Christ into the treatment providing scenario. 

Jesus is the only true healer of the body and mind.  He cares enough to offer us redemption from our sins and can heal us from the damages of that sin.  He is the only Way, Truth and Life we have, and for that I am grateful.

There is no health in my bones because of my sin. – Psalm 38:3b

Sin take its toll on the human body and mind and can create devastating illness in the body.  Why isn’t Jesus spoken of in healthcare treatment? 

Secular humanism has taken it’s toll.  We are not healed by secular humanism.  Secular humanists do not even believe in Our God, and the wisdom of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Our Heavenly Father is the creator of mankind and blew life into the first man, Adam, after creating his body from dust (Genesis 2:7).  How can mankind think he knows more than Christ?

“Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God?….” 1 Corinthians 6:19

It is man’s arrogance and greed that produces medical practices such as the pharmaceutical companies we are required to pay for in order to fulfill the healthcare laws of this country.  Like the Nazi’s of Hitler’s Germany, we are forced to comply.  Like in Hitler’s days of medicine, it has stayed godless and Hitler is a fine example of what medicine can do in the sickness industry, for it is not the medical health industry.  

I can no longer work in an industry that promises health but only offers godless health treatments for those who suffer in silence, and for those suffering from mental illness who can’t find answers to their maladies in our mental health treatments today.

Showcasing Skills: Seeking Jesus Through Prayer At A Time When I Need His Help

As I seek a better job opportunity, I have thought about my past education, goals and plans.  I wanted to be a nonprofit owner and founded a nonprofit in Cleveland, Ohio some years ago.  I took classes at the University of Akron around nonprofit management and briefly considered urban planning as a change in education from clinical psychology and practicing as a therapist and mental health clinician.  I had taught classes at a University which brought in a good income when I held the job.

sunny pathIt is all very profound to me, reviewing my past and present career goals, and I’ve decided that I have become a life-long learner always interested in learning something new.  But as I was reviewing my history, searching for ways to improve my resume with my experience and skills being showcased in a new way, I reflected on founding and directing a 501 (c) 3 nonprofit.  I took all the classes offered at the Cleveland Foundation that were offered free of charge on nonprofit management.  Those were the years I enjoyed learning about being a nonprofit Director yet I was not a believer in Christ yet.

From California on, I believed I had a special gift in writing and had had the experience of having lost my connection with my daughter, Kindred Kohler, who had been taken from me by her dad, Wayne Kohler, by a frauded document and other maneuvers that were illegal.  He had been violent and I tried taking my daughter to a battered women’s shelter to protect both her and I.  This was during the 1980’s when family violence was not protected by the police; they just asked you if you wanted them to do anything else after arriving on the scene but did not take the offenders away back in those days.  So I was left with no police protection and had to go on my own through the family court system in Solano County, California.

There’s more to the story, however this blog post is about making a better life for myself and including in my resume the information regarding my having taken nonprofit management courses, and founding a nonprofit.  Those skills are not found with every applicant for the Office Manager jobs I’ve been seeking as I’ve had the title at the last job I had working as a temporary employee before landing a permanent job where I currently work.

My resume does not include any of my experience as a nonprofit founder, and office skills are included in such work.  These days I have had to take the jobs that staffing agencies have given me although I know that those temporary jobs are beneath my true job skills.

Other skills I’ve utilized are from presenting my court case in a way that was understandable to myself and others I spoke with at the time, only the law is not for those bringing cases who are representing themselves as their own attorney and so I never could get my child custody case straightened out.  I always lost since I was going up against an attorney.  Advocating comes naturally to me; I guess I always was one.

You see, in my practice as a clinician, I was an advocate for patients, on both sides of the aisle; as an advocate for patients in psychiatric hospitals, as well as on the opposing side through a patient’s right’s advocacy agency.

My journalism background with internet radio about the laws around child custody having been a major component of life for me then has continuing implications in my life.  In those years I was studying to become a licensed psychologist, but the family law problems got in the way.  I lost much and could not afford the student loans I had taken out.

Life has been like a roller-coaster, wanting Jesus as my savior yet wanting the things I had strived so hard to obtain so many years ago and not wanting to be left broke all my life.  I don’t want to work in any old office doing the work that anyone can do; that is not where my gifts are.

Mental Health And Healing Requires Knowledge Of God

How would one who practices therapeutic interventions in the field of psychology be able to turn feelings and experiences into questioning whether God is real and being willing to find out?  Pain is a great motivator and when one is brought down to their knees metaphorically speaking, they may want Christ Jesus to help them return to a life they can deal with.  No only deal with but keep them from falling again.

He will not allow your foot to slip; He who keeps you will not slumber. – Psalm 121:3

If a therapist could chance it and talk about Christ to a person receiving mental health treatment, who seeks a way out of misery and hearing voices, would it be worth it?  I think it would.

No matter what the problem of the day, anyone who turns to Christ Jesus has a better chance of becoming strengthened by a trust in Christ.

Christ overcame all. 

He is a friend to me and can be to anyone.

Give your hearts to Him, and watch how your life becomes steady and stays on solid ground.